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Five Things - March 17, 2025

Welcome to my blog titled ‘Five Things’ where you can expect just that - five random musings or reflections from the previous week or so. I’ll also share a quote I find meaningful as a point of focus for the week. For a photo gallery of our life on the road, our pets, and miscellaneous things I find interesting, you can follow me on Instagram @tabithalord.

So here are this week’s five things, starting with the quote of the week…

  1. "When we lose the right to be different, we lose the privilege to be free." - Charles Evans Hughes

  2. Did you know that Kevlar was invented by a woman named Stephanie Kwolek in 1965? In honor of Women’s History Month, and because I am a total science geek at heart, I encourage you to read more about her on The Science History Institutes blog page. As a chemist for DuPont laboratories, she was tasked with investigating the next generation of fibers capable of performing in extreme conditions, and she came up with Kevlar! In 1995 she was induction into the National Inventors Hall of Fame in 1995, only the 4th woman of 113 members at the time. One of Kwolek’s most cited papers describes how to demonstrate condensation polymerization in a beaker at atmospheric pressure and room temperature (a lot of words for a fairly straightforward reaction). It’s commonly called the ‘Nylon Rope Trick,’ and it is one of the experiments I remember distinctly replicating in Organic Chemistry class many years ago!

  3. This Saturday, our youngest child will turn 21. This age, for the obvious reason that she can now legally join us at bars, feels more significant than 18. And, don’t worry, we’ve already taught her to mix a good martini! When I think about Kyra, aside from her incredible musical talent, her voice like an angel, her own unique style and vibe, and her intellectual prowess, I think about her kindness. In a world where cruelty still holds sway, this child of ours is thoughtful, caring, intentional, and above all, kind. Happy birthday, sweet Kyra. You are a beautiful, bright light, and this world is a better place because you’re in it.

  4. I’ll be heading to Folsom, CA this week for a ‘sister’ visit. Since Ray and I have been on the road, we’ve definitely spent time with family and friends all over the country, but I used to go to my sister’s a couple of times a year for girl time, and I’ve really missed that. My visit just so happens to coincide with Persian New Year, so I expect I will barely be able to zip my jeans after partaking in the fabulous feast! I’ll try to post some photos of the delish dishes over on Insta.

  5. We’re at the midpoint in the semester for school, just finishing our Science Fiction and Fantasy sections and heading into Horror. Mostly, I really dislike the genre, but I have on occasion loved a horror story. Shirley Jackson’s “The Lottery” sticks with me still. The Stand is an all-time favorite read, and I tore through What Moves the Dead, a retelling of Edgar Allan Poe’s The Fall of the House of Usher for class last week. I think I dislike horror because I want to love a flawed character, who in the end comes through on the side of good. With horror, the characters can serve another purpose. Horror writing often features characters who are unlikeable, or who have a fatal flaw, who are the victim, or who are themselves the horror. Funny enough, I notice in my own horror writing, I too use character differently. Charlie, from my short story “Goodbye Charlie,” which you can listen to HERE (my story starts at 18:40) is not my favorite guy, but he’s right for his role. And in “Monster” (coming soon on the Tales to Terrify podcast), both the characters of Cora and Mama are pretty monstrous. Studying Horror is certainly helping me understand the genre better, if not enjoy it more.

Monday Musings 4-18-22

I am on the west coast spending time with my sister and brother-in-law at the beach in Carpinteria. I look forward to my ‘sister’ trips so much, and we fall into comfortable habits of living and working together as if we don’t live across the country from one another. I had the bonus fun of having my boys and their lovely ladies with us for Easter Sunday. We laughed on the beach, ate a fantastic meal, and enjoyed each other’s company. It was a day full of small, wonderful moments that I think we’ll all remember with a smile.

I was thinking about these small moments, and how sometimes we are so caught up moving from one thing to the next that we miss them. I’ve been practicing yoga while I’m out here nearly every day. Yesterday morning, I took a very, very hot power class. Who thought that was a good idea after wine tasting all day the day before? Apparently, I did when I scheduled it while blissed out on the fruits of the vine. Anyway, I went to the class, and there was a moment at the end when the instructor opened the door, allowing the cool air to rush in, and it felt absolutely wonderful. Something as simple as cool air on an overheated body was so satisfying and pleasurable I can call up the feeling of relief and euphoria right now!

On Easter, we took a walk through the marshes, sat in the sun with sand between our toes, watched a basketball game, and ate really good food. Small things. Simple things. And it was a perfect day.

“When simple is more than enough, you will feel happy more than enough!” ― Mehmet Murat ildan